Travelling as a couple? Our advice…

Travelling as a couple? Our advice…

If there’s one thing better than the amazing experiences you can have while travelling the world, it’s being able to share them with the one you love. But travelling as a couple can have its pitfalls and there are plenty of examples of people splitting up due to the stress involved in extended travel (some couples split up after a two week holiday!)

Rich and I are lucky enough to have had 9 years to get to know each other before we embarked on an 11 month overland trip across the globe, but even we can admit that when times got rough, the strain started to show! So we’ve put our heads together and come up with some tips for those of you who are thinking about taking the plunge and embarking on your travel dreams as a couple…

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Give each other some space

Every once in a while, try to go off on your own. No matter how much you love each other; if you’re together 24/7, the probability of winding each other up when you’re stressed, irritating each other and having an argument will only increase!

Take it in turns

To alleviate some of the financial stress involved in travelling we took it in turns to take part in particular activities and decided on our “must do’s “right at the start of the trip. For example, I chose to have a hot air balloon ride in Cappadocia and Rich chose to take a flight around Everest (unfortunately, his flight was cancelled due to bad weather, so we had to put aside the next activity for him to make up for it, but you get the idea!).

Talk to each other

This piece of advice is really valid all year round but becomes even more important when you’re travelling. If you’re not happy about the town you are staying in; you really don’t want to go on that excursion or don’t want to take part in a certain activity / hang out with someone you’ve just met – SAY SOMETHING! Likewise, if you really want to go and see that landmark you’ve waited your whole life to see, or jump out of that plane, it’s important to speak up and tell your other half how important it is to you. You may only get one chance and if there’s one thing guaranteed to ruin a relationship, it’s resentment.

Don’t be too clingy

One of the best things about travelling is meeting weird and wonderful people from all over the globe, but if you’re travelling as a couple, it’s all too easy to ‘stick together’ and rely on each other for company. To avoid missing out on some of the friends and travel buddies that single travellers tend to meet, try to step away from each other once in a while and be a bit more open minded about chatting to the people around you.

Plan Ahead

Before you set off on your trip, try to have a rough plan (there’s no need for military precision, ‘winging it’ is half the fun!) and write down all the things you definitely want to see and do. If you both have an idea of what’s in store and are aware of each other’s preferences, then you’re much more likely to avoid disagreements which can ruin your experience.

Budget!

Travelling as a couple basically means that everything you do costs twice the price! We lost count of the amount of times we had to say “thanks but no thanks” to people we met whilst travelling who wanted us to join them on every excursion under the sun. We simply couldn’t afford it. But because we had set ourselves a strict budget beforehand and both knew our limits we didn’t get ourselves into any financial difficulties that could have meant the end of our trip.

Stick to your guns

Somewhat related to the point above – it’s important to be strict with yourselves about what you do or don’t want to do whilst travelling. It’s SO easy to give into temptation and take up every opportunity you are offered – e.g. to go on an excursion, visit landmarks, buy certain souvenirs or go out partying with new friends, but you’ve gotta stick to your guns and save those pennies for the things you REALLY want to do. This doesn’t mean you can’t be spontaneous, just be careful not to cut off your nose to spite your face!

Take time out to ‘be a couple’

This is perhaps the most important piece of advice we can give! It’s so important to spend some quality time together and take a break from tedious things like budgeting, booking tickets, plotting routes, buying food etc. Go out for a romantic meal once in a while (no street stalls!), take in the sunset with a cold beer or surprise each other with an impromptu skinny-dipping session; whatever takes your fancy!

I really believe that nobody makes a better travel buddy than the one you love. I can’t think of anyone else I’d have rather explored the world with and the experiences Richard & I shared have certainly made the bond between us stronger! We can’t guarantee that you’ll never fight, get in a mood or irritate the heck out of each other – long journeys and strange situations definitely bring out the worst in people – but hope that by following our advice, you’ll still be ‘loved up’ by the time you arrive home!

Have you ever travelled with your other half? How did it go? Who would you say is the best type of travel companion? Let us know!

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  1. April 04, 14:09 #1 Aisleen Author

    Hi Alex, thx for your message. Unfortunately the answer to this really depends on where you are planning to go!! Our budget was extremely tight – like an average of £60 a day for the both of us! We found that in places like Pakistan and some destinations in SE Asia this was really easy to keep to (e.g. In Pakistan we spent just £60 for a whole week for both of us). However in Australia this pretty much doubled and Europe can be expensive during June/July August. It also depends on how many activities you plan on doing and if you decide to take it in turns like us. For hostels in Asia we tried to keep to around £5 a night but in Europe would pay anywhere between 25E-60Euros a night. Campsites in NZ again can cost from NZ$6-12 to $45 or $50 a night.

    In total we spent just under £20K for a year’s worth of travelling – which is significantly less than we spend as a couple back home! If you’re able to work while you travel too (I worked for 8 weeks in Oz) that can help boost your budget so that you can squeeze in a few more unforgettable experiences!

    I hope that’s helped a bit- it’s a v difficult thing to estimate without knowing the ‘type’ of travelling you want to do or the places you’d like to visit – but to replicate a trip like ours, the above costs should give you a starting point to help figure it out! 🙂

    Let us know if you have any more Qs!

  2. April 04, 13:09 #2 Alex

    What was your budget if you don’t mind me asking please, planning a similar trip but not sure how much we really need to survive on? Thanks.

  3. March 07, 10:32 #3 Aisleen Author

    Hiya, Thanks so much for your comment! Glad you enjoyed the post! 🙂

  4. March 07, 03:57 #4 Green Global Travel

    These are great tips for couples who want to get away together!

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